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It’s About Progress Not Perfection

Are you a perfectionist?

  1. Do you have unrealistically high expectations?
  2. Do you put off tasks when you feel that you cannot achieve perfect results?
  3. Do you feel like everything that you do is not good enough?
  4. Do you blame yourself when you do not achieve perfect results?
  5. Do you not like asking for the help that you need?

If you can answer ‘yes’ to the above questions you are most likely to be a perfectionist.

Perfectionists have very high standards for themselves and their homes. When it comes to home organisation, perfectionists may start enthusiastically but then become frustrated by the lack of perfect results or feel overwhelmed as they focus on everything that has yet to be done. They also find it more difficult to ask for the help that they need, feeling like they have failed if they cannot do it themselves.

You don’t have to be perfect

Working as a Professional Organiser I know that perfectionism is an impossible pursuit. It can lead to feelings of failure, procrastination, inactivity and the inability to ask for the help that you need. A perfectionist also finds it difficult to celebrate all that they have achieved, focusing their attention on everything that still needs to be completed.

I not only support my clients to declutter and organise their homes, but I also help them with mindset change by focusing on the process rather than the end results. The journey of decluttering and organising your home is not going to be perfect.  During the process things will be out of place as you review each item, it can be emotional as objects remind you of key points in your life and there are many decisions to make along the way, but the results are worth the effort.

The Journey

When I start supporting a new a client, I explain that they are at the start of a journey (the process) and I will be there every step of the way to support and motivate them. I often see signs of perfectionism with my clients as they feel frustrated that they should be able to declutter and organise themselves, without needing support.

I don’t see it this way at all. I always say that they have made the most important decision to ask for support and that I believe that together we can achieve their goals.  As we start to work together decluttering, setting up effective systems to simplify the home management and introducing daily habits to maintain control I start to see my clients feel more relaxed, enjoy the process (we often have some very funny moments and chat about all kinds of things), value what we have achieved so far and believe that it is possible.

Top Tips For Progress Rather Than Perfectionism

Here are my top tips to make progress:

  • Set yourself realistic expectations
  • Instead of focusing on the results learn to love the journey
  • Say goodbye to perfectionism, this is an impossible pursuit. You don’t have to be perfect. Freedom comes from being good enough
  • Don’t see mistakes as failures
  • Ask for the help and support you need

And now you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good’

John Steinbeck

This month has been lovely with lots of previous clients booking sessions to work on specific areas in their home, as their situation has changed. I always love and value to see my existing clients. If you need support again, don’t let the perfectionist in you stop you asking for the help that you need. You know that I am non judgemental and am focused on supporting you in the most effective way possible.

Let’s keep organising!

Tracy Ross

Professional Organiser

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  • I first met Tracy in 2019. I live overseas and wanted to help my Mother clear a downstairs room to become a bedroom, I needed a gentle, trusted professional to complete the task after I had returned to my home. We all met and agreed upon a plan, but it was not to be as my Mother’s health deteriorated very quickly and she passed away. Although I did return to the UK a few times that year, decluttering wasn’t a priority. Then Covid put an end to my being able to return. Finally, in spring of this year, flight restrictions were lifted and I saw an opportunity to return to the UK, now faced with the task of clearing the family home. I contacted Tracy and thankfully, despite short notice, she had some free days to help me. We arranged 6 days throughout my 2 1/2 weeks to help me stay on track and motivated. Tracy helped me stay focussed and helped me believe we could achieve a fairly daunting task of going through a lifetime of memories, papers, photos and possessions. I had to be very disciplined about what was kept as whatever I chose to keep was to be shipped back to my Country. Tracy gave me time to tell a story about an item and why it made the “keeper”, or “think about it” pile, yet didn’t break stride in her work whilst listening. It was a very cathartic process. I felt like I was talking to a long time friend. She has a talent for putting you at ease, and for helping you see objects with a critical eye. Not once did I feel she was making the decision, more that she helped me verbalize my attachment, or not, and that really builds a bond of trust. After each session, I had “homework” to complete before we met again and a follow up email charting the successes of the day and the plan for the next session. As I was on my own during my stay in my family home, this could have been rather lonely, but knowing that Tracy was coming, both broke up the monotony of going through endless boxes and kept me on task such that the job was successfully completed.

    thumb Andree Stow
    May 9, 2022

  • Tracy has helped me many times over the years, and I think I must have known her for 10 years now! When I first contacted her I had reservations about letting someone into my home, making judgments and telling me what I should do. But Tracy's service is NOT like that at all. She did a full home audit and we chatted about what I hoped to achieve. For years I'd been frustrated by our storage area, a large room under the house which was hard to access and full of things we hadn't seen for years. We agreed to tackle it and Tracy suggested that to start with, we took everything out. I thought she was completely mad at this point. Three hours later we had done just that, assessed what was there, got rid of some of it, sorted some and made plans for the rest. It was like a massive weight had lifted from my shoulders. After that she helped me organise rooms, and filter through boxes of stuff. More recently she helped me prepare for a big move. It's always an absolute pleasure to see Tracy and she is very thoughtful in her approach. Her service is life changing and I am very grateful that I contacted Tracy all those years ago. Contact her now, you honestly won't regret it.

    thumb Clare Suttie
    June 11, 2020

  • Tracy is exceptional at what she does and is generous in what she gives. Highly recommend.

    thumb Jayne reah
    February 23, 2022

  • Tracy helped my young girls and I declutter before a house move. In particular I was impressed with how Tracy got on well with the girls (7 yrs and 3 yrs) straight away and explained the sorting process simply. This has had a lastly impact on my children, getting them to appreciate you can’t keep everything!! I too enjoyed spending focused time with Tracy looking at my wardrobe. I will definitely be implementing the learnings for my clothes purchases such as reducing my tendency to buy some items in too many colour ways! Thank you Tracy for all your help. Jo

    thumb Joanna Dew
    August 25, 2020

  • Tracy is amazing. We were renovating our house and finally was able to plan some extra storage. Tracy helped us to plan out new fitted wardrobes and then came back a few months later to help me get into a system with my laundry ( one of the things as a family I find hard to keep under control! ). She is kind, non judgemental, motivational & inspirational! I would say most people could do with a bit of Blissfully Organised in their lives!

    thumb Laura Dannan
    December 14, 2020