Are you a perfectionist?
- Do you have unrealistically high expectations?
- Do you put off tasks when you feel that you cannot achieve perfect results?
- Do you feel like everything that you do is not good enough?
- Do you blame yourself when you do not achieve perfect results?
- Do you not like asking for the help that you need?
If you can answer ‘yes’ to the above questions you are most likely to be a perfectionist.
Perfectionists have very high standards for themselves and their homes. When it comes to home organisation, perfectionists may start enthusiastically but then become frustrated by the lack of perfect results or feel overwhelmed as they focus on everything that has yet to be done. They also find it more difficult to ask for the help that they need, feeling like they have failed if they cannot do it themselves.
You don’t have to be perfect
Working as a Professional Organiser I know that perfectionism is an impossible pursuit. It can lead to feelings of failure, procrastination, inactivity and the inability to ask for the help that you need. A perfectionist also finds it difficult to celebrate all that they have achieved, focusing their attention on everything that still needs to be completed.
I not only support my clients to declutter and organise their homes, but I also help them with mindset change by focusing on the process rather than the end results. The journey of decluttering and organising your home is not going to be perfect. During the process things will be out of place as you review each item, it can be emotional as objects remind you of key points in your life and there are many decisions to make along the way, but the results are worth the effort.
When I start supporting a new a client, I explain that they are at the start of a journey (the process) and I will be there every step of the way to support and motivate them. I often see signs of perfectionism with my clients as they feel frustrated that they should be able to declutter and organise themselves, without needing support.
I don’t see it this way at all. I always say that they have made the most important decision to ask for support and that I believe that together we can achieve their goals. As we start to work together decluttering, setting up effective systems to simplify the home management and introducing daily habits to maintain control I start to see my clients feel more relaxed, enjoy the process (we often have some very funny moments and chat about all kinds of things), value what we have achieved so far and believe that it is possible.
Top Tips For Progress Rather Than Perfectionism
Here are my top tips to make progress:
- Set yourself realistic expectations
- Instead of focusing on the results learn to love the journey
- Say goodbye to perfectionism, this is an impossible pursuit. You don’t have to be perfect. Freedom comes from being good enough
- Don’t see mistakes as failures
- Ask for the help and support you need
And now you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good’John Steinbeck
This month has been lovely with lots of previous clients booking sessions to work on specific areas in their home, as their situation has changed. I always love and value to see my existing clients. If you need support again, don’t let the perfectionist in you stop you asking for the help that you need. You know that I am non judgemental and am focused on supporting you in the most effective way possible.
Let’s keep organising!